‘It’s not just about who’s loyal to you but who’s gonna bring more benefit in your life.’
Y’all might be thinking that, it’s too stoic to think like that.
I know we all had that one friend or bestie that nobody can replace. I too had a ‘to die’ bestie. So, no. I’m not going to talk about that bestie.
Instead, I’m going to talk about your friend circle in school, in your workplace, on campus, or anywhere that literally requires you to make a new friend or join a friend group or just unconsciously make a new friend group.
I had this conversation with my bestie the other day and I just felt that not enough people are talking about this topic of how having a correct friend group that consists of people that have the same ambition as you, will make your life easier.
As we grew up, we think that having friends means we are having people that are loyal to us. In fact not all friend circles comprehended with people that have the same goals as us or at the very least, had the same amount of ambition with what we have.
First, you need to know that you obviously have a lot of goals when it comes to your school or your work. Everything that you want to achieve, and to make yourself succeed in those goals, you need to be surrounded by the right environment.
When we first go to school or college, we will immediately look for a friend-except if you’re a freaking nerd of course- we will find one and then two and the list goes on till you get this ‘friend group’.
At first, maybe it was okay to hang out with these guys like we just met them, we obviously didn’t know anything about them. But then after several months or maybe even weeks of you guys together, you start to know that this friend or that friend from this ‘friend group’ is just a big NO. like maybe some of them were too chill with their life, or maybe too toxic with all their negative thoughts.
Listen guys….
If you are truly ambitious with your goals, you can’t just keep your friendship like that, because that’ll obstruct all the plans that you wanna do to reach those goals. Again, don’t be naive and think something like “but we just friend, they won’t impact me that much”
Did you really?
Did you really think that they would not impact us?
Well if your good enough to make a full list of what you want to achieve and how to make that succeed, I think you’re good enough to see which one friend is bad for you and which one that will consciously or unconsciously leads you to achieve all your goals, simply just because you guys has the same ambition, and you will also indirectly help them.
For example, if your goal is to be a smart student it is better for you to choose a friend group that has the same focus. So you guys can communicate about what is the efficient way to be a smart kid. If your goal is to be a smart kid and your friend group is just full of people that are very ignorant with their grades. Then what will guarantee you to still focus on your goals?
You guys have to remember that how your life is going, depends mostly on the environment you’re in. if you choose to just stay in those unproductive environments then you will never reach your goals.
Friendship for me is where me and my friend share the same values. Being beneficial for each other, supporting each other, spreading a lot of positivities, so that it will impact us in a good way.
One thing is that your life all depends on how you handle your surroundings. So when the thing is starting to make you feel uncomfortable, don’t feel guilty about moving and search for a new friend group where you can improve yourself.
Hi guys it’s me again:)
I write this as a little reminder for myself. but I think it’s worth to share because not everyone are realized (yet) of how much their friend group is really matter.
Thank you so much to just spending your time here❤ see ya on my next writing;D
